Groom Pressure?

According to a recent survey by Mintel, 32% of men are overwhelmed by wedding planning.  Fascinatingly, and perhaps somewhat surprisingly, the figure for women was only 42% – not really that much difference considering the majority-role society tends to assume women take in the planning of the nuptials.

So are man taking on more in the planning of weddings? According to Fiona O’Donnell, lifestyle and leisure analyst at Mintel says:

“As grooms take on a more active role in wedding planning, it’s understandable that their stress level surrounding these decisions will escalate. They aren’t exactly ‘groom-zillas,’ but they are feeling the pressure.”

Image Credit: Suit by When Freddie Met Lilly Photography by Masterpieces Photography Model - Trent
Image Credit:
Suit by When Freddie Met Lilly
Photography by Masterpieces Photography
Model – Trent

Here’s the real kicker though – men are having a say in the choice of the bridal gown! A hugely surprising 19% of grooms stated that they were solely or mostly responsible for selecting the bridal gown.  So where is tradition in this day and age?  For fans of Downtown Abbey, and the many similar costume dramas, it’s bad luck to see the groom before the wedding.  Have these long-held traditions been forgotten, or are we just disregarding them?

Well I’d like to think about the perfect day, and a big part of that is the thought of my soon to be husband seeing that first glimpse of me in the gown walking down the aisle.  Yes, my finance and I regularly discuss the finances, and I may have a limit to the expense of my gown, shoes, veil and accessories, but to me this is a purchase to be shared with my mum and closest friends.  They are the ones who’ll (hopefully) give me the good, and perhaps more importantly, the honest advice.  That’s the guidance a bride really needs.

So would I want my fiancé’s input into the choice of my perfect gown?  I think not.  So many of the males that I know would get it all wrong. Let’s face facts, if your fiancé gives you really great advice on dressing you might be inclined to think they were “batting for the other team”.  Sure, that’s an appalling generalisation, and there are certainly plenty of men with good dress sense, but more likely they have a wife or girlfriend who assists with the shopping and who lays out their clothes.  Am I cutting too close to the bone?  Or maybe I’ve got it completely wrong.

At the end of the day I want my finances’ opinion, but not necessarily on my dream dress. My fantasy is to look amazing and to have his jaw drop totally stunned by the gorgeous woman about to become his wife.