5 tips to help you stay sane in your wedding planning

You don’t normally associate the topics of getting married and mental health, but it’s Queensland Mental Health Week and planning a wedding can be a huge stressor for many couples. If you’re beginning to feel the strain, it’s important to take a step back and think about your mental wellbeing as you plan your future life together. While that one milestone day is important to celebrate your love and commitment to each other, it is essential to minimise stress and anxiety before the big day.

Here are the top five tips we recommend to reduce stress on your wedding day:

Ask for support

This is a special day that you will remember forever, however, you’re not the only ones who are going to be enjoying a wonderful day – your family and friends are as much a part of the day as you and your partner so don’t take on all the work yourselves. Ask for help and support where you can. If you have one of those awkward family dynamic situations that doesn’t work well together then plan for this early – don’t leave it to the last minute. You know everyone’s personalities, so choose carefully who you rely on and make sure your requests for assistance are reasonable too. You can’t expect everyone to be quite as committed as you are either, so give people realistic deadlines and be appreciative of the small things.

Plan ahead

Do as much as you can before the big day and if your budget allows, use professionals. If your budget is more modest then ask your family and friends to help set up on the day and pick someone completely trustworthy to act as coordinator on the day. You don’t want to be worrying about the chair covers or floral centrepieces before you walk down the aisle.

Make sure you get your wedding dress with enough time to make any last-minute changes if required and make sure that at your final fitting you try the dress on with the underwear you plan to wear. Some things, like the cake and the flowers, have to be collected at the last minute, but most items you need can be collected days or weeks in advance and the more things you tick off the list early the better. If items need to be moved around on the day, or positioned at specific places make sure you have detailed someone you trust implicitly to make sure it happens, maybe even do a dry-run in the days or weeks before to practice.

 

Communicate your priorities

You can’t please everyone, as much as you might want to. From the very start of the planning stage it is good to understand your own expectations, along with the expectations of other people who play a key role in your lives and will be essential to your wedding day. Avoiding discussions about big items, such as the budget, can create significant problems as you approach your wedding day. So be clear in your priorities and plan around the key components and people, being upfront and honest is usually the best policy, with family, friends and vendors.

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Photo credit: Masterpieces Photography + Video

Trust in the professionals

If your budget has allowed for a team of professionals, utilise their skills and services to the fullest extent. Set clear expectations and ask questions early in the planning stages. It can be very hard to alter plans once the day is in progress, and even harder if the plans were ambiguous to begin with. So be kind to your vendors, meet with them, fill in their forms and ask questions. They want to make your day magical, but they need you to help them do that. Trust their skills and experience, and be in the moment on your day, not counting seats, or worrying about how bright the lights are.

 

 Let it go

Sometimes things don’t go to plan, but how you react to unplanned events can be the difference between a good celebration and a bad one. We have attended so many weddings where the bride or groom gets upset about something that the guests haven’t noticed. All the guests see is a bride or groom who doesn’t look like this is the happiest day of their lives. This isn’t the lasting impression you want to give to you friends and family. In contrast we have attended weddings where so many things have gone wrong – massive storms, people running late, bouquets falling apart, ripped bridesmaid dresses in inappropriate places to name but a few – yet they have been some of the best celebrations we’ve seen because the couple took things in their stride and just made the most of the day.

So, take stock. What is really important to you about your big day? That is your priority in the planning and on the actual day.

If things get on top you, it might be time to talk to someone. Maybe your partner, your BFF, your mum, or your mother-in-law. Whoever you feel most comfortable with to raise your concerns. You’ve heard the old saying about a problem shared. It really does work. A different perspective might be the calming conversation you need.

And if you don’t think that’s going to work, for someone completely independent and unbiased to talk to about a personal crisis you can contact Lifeline

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Photo Credit: Masterpieces Photography +Video
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Keeping your wedding cool

belvedere008With the full-on summer weather at the moment, it’s not just the final details of your wedding planning that might be getting you a little hot under the collar.

For anyone tying the knot under these blazing summer skies we’ve got some tips to help alleviate the heat and let you, and your guests, enjoy the bluest skies the season can offer…

Water, water and more water

Make sure that you, and your bridal party have plenty of water on hand throughout the preparation and the photo session. Dehydration is your worst enemy and will rob you of your energy at precisely the time you want to be enjoying things the most.

Provide water and fruit juice stations for your guests, especially if you are having an outdoor ceremony. Having water available will also reduce alcohol consumption and keep things more even-tempered, especially if it is a sticky humid evening.

Don’t forget your furbabies. Make sure that your pets, whether involved in the ceremony or not, are well cared for. It will be one less thing for you to stress about on the day if you are confident that they are being spoilt and totally looked after.

It might help to calm or nerves, or you might think it will help you sleep, but drinking the night before your wedding is not advisable. The thing that makes the heat even more unbearable is a hangover, so make sure you, and your groom, moderate the partying the night before the big day. You’ll enjoy the big day so much more and will have the stamina get to the real party.

Don’t be late

brookfield-shoot_333At any other time of the year it’s always acceptable for the bride to be fashionably late (10 minutes or so), but at the height of summer, with your groom and guests waiting under a blazing sun or inside without aircon, you won’t win friends by keeping people waiting. If you are planning on an outside ceremony perhaps provide sunscreen for your guests  – you can wear foundation and moisturiser with sunscreen but it’s a great idea to make sure your groom takes precautions too – you don’t want a sunburnt partner in your photos, or on the honeymoon.

Having an order of service that doubles as a fan is an ingenious solution that looks great and helps everyone keep their cool.

Keep it shady

kimryanwedding-235The more shade you provide for guests the more they will love you, but the same goes for your bridal party too – they have to be outside for the photo session too. Think about parasols, umbrellas or fans – they make great props as well providing some much-needed protection from the sun.

If you follow these simple rules you’ll be able to make the most of this wonderful summer weather while it lasts, enjoy your day in the sun and have a wedding that everyone remembers for the right reasons.

Photo Credits: Masterpieces Photography + Video

A taste of haute-couture

ALCP_2Right now, here in Brisbane, you can enjoy a taste of the luxury experience usually reserved for A-List celebrity parties when you choose an incredible haute-couture cake created by Caitlin Mitchell at A Little Cake Place.
We were lucky enough to be invited to join one of Caitlin’s couples on the start of their journey to cake-heaven with a tasting and consultation at her studio in Annerley.
Caitlin creates a real experience for her clients, with a very select range of premium teas served in elegant china to accompany the mouth-watering tasting platter.
Caitlin usually leaves her clients alone to try the flavours by themselves, but we were there to experience just how many times the word “yum” was used and it was quite obvious that Rach and Stu would have been more than happy to go “around-the-clock” of flavours again.
ALCP_3Once they had narrowed down the choice (clearly a VERY difficult process), Caitlin came back into the room to discuss ideas for decorating. This was where you could see why Caitlin describes her work as couture because she took the time to listen to the client and take in the details of theme, colour palette and inspiration. She then began to sketch some ideas, gradually refining the design until the clients had everything they wanted in an elegant and unique piece. When you see the stunning sample cakes all around her studio you know that Caitlin creates truly outstanding masterpieces of cake art and we can’t wait to see the finished article at Rach and Stu’s wedding in September.
Watch the video to see what happens at a tasting with A Little Cake Place.
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Photos and Video: Masterpieces Photography + Video

Picturesque Brookfield Wedding Showcase

Planning your wedding?  The leafy, semi-rural suburb of Brookfield offers a unique venue close to the City. Brookfield Hall is located in the picturesque western suburbs, only 14km from the heart of Brisbane. The Brookfield Hall, which once existed in Darra, has been part of the community for over a century and offers not only country charm, but a beautiful setting in which to create the wedding of your dreams.

If you are looking for inspiration, information and the perfect team to realise the wedding you always imagined, come along to the Brookfield Hall Wedding Showcase,Wednesday 15th July, 6:00pm – 7:30pm, hosted by Celebrations by Alysia, Brisbane’s premiere wedding planner and event stylist, and their amazing team of industry professionals. Complimentary drinks & canapés will be served.
RSVPs essential:  alysia@celebrationsbyalysia.com.au

Industry experts will be available on the night to answer any questions you might have, and include: George Wu gowns, Boss Models, Noosh Catering, The Wedding Alley, La Papeterie Stationery & Design, Somerton Limousines, Masterpieces Photography and Video, AV Ideas, Pollen Florist, Gold Wedding Hire, Krissy’s Cakehouse, When Freddie Met Lilly Suits, House of Zion, Bridal Bling and Celebrations by Alysia. Channel 7’s Richard Champion will MC the event.

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