How long should your engagement be?

He (or she) has popped the question and now you’re engaged! This is such an exciting time for you and your partner. Your friends and family will also be thrilled to be sharing in your celebration. But now the big question is how long you should wait to tie the knot.

Perfect to meHow long you are engaged will depend on your personal circumstances, family dynamics, community expectations and every couple has a unique set of variables to contemplate. This is the perfect time to anticipate your married life together and think about what you want to achieve as a couple in the short and medium term.

It’s undeniable that finances will play an enormous factor in determining the length of your engagement. Whether you have significant family support, or are doing it all yourselves, it will take time to save, not to mention having time to find the perfect time, location and suppliers to create your dream day.

In the US the average time couples are engaged is from one year to 18 months. This makes sense when thinking about booking your wedding vendors and suppliers. If you want to have your first choice of date at your venue you should expect to book at least 12-15 months in advance, perhaps more for popular venues and “marquee” dates.

Your life situation will have a large impact. Do you want to finish university first? Your work situation may involve travel, or fixed length contracts, or you simply might want have a bigger nest egg should unexpected expenses be incurred along the journey to the altar. There is nothing wrong with taking your time.

On the other hand some of these elements may also force you to move a little faster. You may also decide to speed up the process if a loved one is ill, a close friend has plans to move away or you can get a short-notice cancellation at your dream venue.

With all of your wedding decisions the most important thing is that you are both happy with your decision. The length of time you remain engaged is your choice, and we suggest you make the most of this time. Of course if you do get sick of waiting there is always the option to elope! Elvis is waiting at the Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas at any time of the day or night…

Happy planning x

Are you proposing on Feb 29?

Ok ladies, it’s almost here! That one elusive day that only comes once every 4 years. Yes, it’s a leap year, which means that on 29th February you can take charge and ask the big question.
Ever since the 5th Century, when, according to Irish legend, St Bridget made a complaint to St Patrick about the length of time it took a man to propose, there has been the tradition that women could ask for their partner’s hand in marriage once every four years on February 29th. Records from 13th Century Scotland appear to verify the legend, and even mention various penalties that could be imposed should the man refuse!

Of course in these enlightened times you really don’t have to wait for a random quadrennial date to take your relationship to the next level, but if you need an excuse, this may be the chance you’ve been waiting for.

After all, if you decide to wait, it’s four more years before you ‘officially’ have the chance again.
We wish you the perfect proposal, whatever that may mean to you and your partner.


Ekka Nights

We had our own exciting August evening last night with an incredible night shoot for the next edition of The Wedding Alley magazine. The feature will showcase stunning gowns from When Freddie Met Lilly who are showing their new collection at New York Fashion Week in September. Vanessa’s gowns are the epitome of sexy sophistication – perfect for a multitude of occasions, from cocktail style wedding to red carpet soirée. Dave Wall from Masterpieces Photography + Video weaved his usual magic at some iconic Brisbane locations before wrapping up overlooking side-show alley at the Ekka. Models, Laura and Scott, were encouraged to play the role of star-crossed lovers in front of the ferris wheel, styling the shot more like an engagement shoot to reflect the many marriage proposals that take place there every year.

For your own special engagement photography session, make a time to speak with Dave at Masterpieces Photography + Video.

You can view When Freddie Met Lilly’s Spring Bridal and Bridesmaid Belle Collection Launch on 27th August. Visit their website, or email to receive an invitation.

Photo Credit:
Gown and Suit: When Freddie Met Lilly | Photography: Masterpieces Photography + Video | Hair and Makeup: Makeup by Mieko | Models: Laura and Scott

So you’ve taken the plunge …

You’re in the euphoria of engagement. You’ve found your perfect life partner, but now you also have a wedding to plan! So where do you start? Our advice is to enjoy your engagement for a little time! Take at least a week or two, perhaps even a month or more if you’re in no rush to the alter to really enjoy the moment. Let it fully sink in and give yourself some time to ponder the future before you start your wedding planning in earnest.

TWA Wedding Rings smlThe most critical thing is the date. Spring, summer, autumn or winter? All the seasons have their unique benefits and their drawbacks and will influence many of the other decisions about the day. We always recommend trying to finalise your date about a year in advance – this gives plenty of time for planning, but also should guarantee your first choice of ceremony and reception venues and your most critical suppliers. Once you have your date set the next choice is your overall theme or style. This might define your venue too. Are you an outdoor couple that must get married on the beach, or in a stunning mountain valley. Or maybe you are all about luxury and the reception venue and a traditional church is the answer. Or perhaps you (or your fiancé) are a car nut and the transport is the critical first choice (not to mention ensuring you don’t clash with Bathurst weekend).

Whatever you’re into, that’s where to start. Your unique and individual choices are what makes your wedding all about you and where the multitude of options really begins! Don’t be put off too much by other people’s opinions and get inspiration from a range of sources – there’s nothing worse than setting small details in place early and then finding something that you love even more – you don’t have to be impulsive (unless you want to).

Most importantly though is to enjoy the process and don’t sweat the small stuff. Get the big ticket items out of the way early and choose experienced professionals who you trust – they will take so much pressure off you as the day gets closer – and the rest will fall into place as the planning progresses.

Speak to our amazing contributors for professional advise on your wedding day.