5 tips to help you stay sane in your wedding planning

You don’t normally associate the topics of getting married and mental health, but it’s Queensland Mental Health Week and planning a wedding can be a huge stressor for many couples. If you’re beginning to feel the strain, it’s important to take a step back and think about your mental wellbeing as you plan your future life together. While that one milestone day is important to celebrate your love and commitment to each other, it is essential to minimise stress and anxiety before the big day.

Here are the top five tips we recommend to reduce stress on your wedding day:

Ask for support

This is a special day that you will remember forever, however, you’re not the only ones who are going to be enjoying a wonderful day – your family and friends are as much a part of the day as you and your partner so don’t take on all the work yourselves. Ask for help and support where you can. If you have one of those awkward family dynamic situations that doesn’t work well together then plan for this early – don’t leave it to the last minute. You know everyone’s personalities, so choose carefully who you rely on and make sure your requests for assistance are reasonable too. You can’t expect everyone to be quite as committed as you are either, so give people realistic deadlines and be appreciative of the small things.

Plan ahead

Do as much as you can before the big day and if your budget allows, use professionals. If your budget is more modest then ask your family and friends to help set up on the day and pick someone completely trustworthy to act as coordinator on the day. You don’t want to be worrying about the chair covers or floral centrepieces before you walk down the aisle.

Make sure you get your wedding dress with enough time to make any last-minute changes if required and make sure that at your final fitting you try the dress on with the underwear you plan to wear. Some things, like the cake and the flowers, have to be collected at the last minute, but most items you need can be collected days or weeks in advance and the more things you tick off the list early the better. If items need to be moved around on the day, or positioned at specific places make sure you have detailed someone you trust implicitly to make sure it happens, maybe even do a dry-run in the days or weeks before to practice.

 

Communicate your priorities

You can’t please everyone, as much as you might want to. From the very start of the planning stage it is good to understand your own expectations, along with the expectations of other people who play a key role in your lives and will be essential to your wedding day. Avoiding discussions about big items, such as the budget, can create significant problems as you approach your wedding day. So be clear in your priorities and plan around the key components and people, being upfront and honest is usually the best policy, with family, friends and vendors.

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Photo credit: Masterpieces Photography + Video

Trust in the professionals

If your budget has allowed for a team of professionals, utilise their skills and services to the fullest extent. Set clear expectations and ask questions early in the planning stages. It can be very hard to alter plans once the day is in progress, and even harder if the plans were ambiguous to begin with. So be kind to your vendors, meet with them, fill in their forms and ask questions. They want to make your day magical, but they need you to help them do that. Trust their skills and experience, and be in the moment on your day, not counting seats, or worrying about how bright the lights are.

 

 Let it go

Sometimes things don’t go to plan, but how you react to unplanned events can be the difference between a good celebration and a bad one. We have attended so many weddings where the bride or groom gets upset about something that the guests haven’t noticed. All the guests see is a bride or groom who doesn’t look like this is the happiest day of their lives. This isn’t the lasting impression you want to give to you friends and family. In contrast we have attended weddings where so many things have gone wrong – massive storms, people running late, bouquets falling apart, ripped bridesmaid dresses in inappropriate places to name but a few – yet they have been some of the best celebrations we’ve seen because the couple took things in their stride and just made the most of the day.

So, take stock. What is really important to you about your big day? That is your priority in the planning and on the actual day.

If things get on top you, it might be time to talk to someone. Maybe your partner, your BFF, your mum, or your mother-in-law. Whoever you feel most comfortable with to raise your concerns. You’ve heard the old saying about a problem shared. It really does work. A different perspective might be the calming conversation you need.

And if you don’t think that’s going to work, for someone completely independent and unbiased to talk to about a personal crisis you can contact Lifeline

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Photo Credit: Masterpieces Photography +Video
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Here’s how to get tickets to the latest bridal collection launch

Wedding PhotographyThe new Easton Collection by When Freddie Met Lilly will be launched at a spectacular evening celebrating all things bridal at The Lushington in Woolloongabba on Thursday 11 October. Tickets are still available, so if you have getting married on the diary for 2019 or beyond this is an event you won’t want to miss, with the latest bridal designs on show at a newly restored art deco venue.

Each year Vanessa Hoe, bridal designer and owner of When Freddie met Lilly, brings together an expert array of bridal suppliers to showcase her latest designs in an atmosphere of red-carpet glamour and sumptuous surroundings. This year looks to continue the trend with the gorgeous Tess Alexander MCing in this new luxurious venue.

Vanessa describes her latest collection of bridal gown designs, “The Easton Collection has hints of ethereal elegance, with our signature French and Italian laces taking on new styles and silhouettes.”

“The collection is drawing inspiration from both vintage and contemporary romance.”

Don’t miss the opportunity to be one of the limited guests for this very special evening.

Thursday 11 October 2018
The Lushington, 5 Hubert St. Wolloongabba
6pm for 6:30pm start to 8pm

Reserve your ticket now

View the 2017 Dakota Collection launch event photos

 

Contributing Suppliers:

@_tess.alexander_ @masterpiecespv @thelushington @bella_brides @katedawesflowerdesign @cakesbyjudyc @francescasflowers @thelittlepackoffive @avideas_ @inthebooth @wearetwine  @eventletters @peterwillingtonweddings @cuisineoncue @urban_dust @beautifulweddingsaustralia @ferraritrento @stagingcreations @theweddingalley

The average cost of the Aussie wedding

WFML_PreLaunch114With so many reports in news and social media about the cost of weddings it’s hard to know what the average really is. In Bride to Be’s biannual Cost of Love survey we learn that the cost of weddings has nearly doubled in the last ten years. Interestingly the increases are in pre-wedding celebrations, jewellery, the groom’s outfit, beauty and the bridal party.

One element that has seen a 6% decrease is the bridal gown, with the average Australian bride spending $2,914 on her dream gown. In a definite sign of the times, one in ten gowns are now purchased online which may account for some of the decreased average spend. While in contrast, the groom’s outfit cost have increased by 14% to $718. Clearly a long way shy of the bridal attire costs, but that average is a good place to start when considering a quality suit.

The survey polls over 1000 Australian women who are engaged or have married recently. So, does this fit with your expenditure?

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Old world grandeur with 5-star service

MPV_TreasuryHotel-3If you’re looking for a Brisbane venue simply oozing elegant style and sophistication then it’s hard to go past the Treasury Hotel. With its mix of an unbeatable location, spectacular architecture and niche function spaces this Brisbane icon is difficult to top.

The hotel’s exceptionally professional, friendly and dedicated function staff know how to deliver your perfect wedding day. Our friends at Masterpieces Photography + Video are one of their preferred suppliers and have shared some highlights from the latest showcase at this real treasure of Brisbane.

Diamonds are a girl’s best friend

xennox_wfml002-1You know we love fashion, champagne, and diamonds – I mean who doesn’t? So an invitation to the UNVEILED bridal showcase featuring the sublime designs of Vanessa Hoe from When Freddie Met Lilly in the opulent surrounds of Xennox Diamonds on the Queen Street Mall in Brisbane was an opportunity we simply couldn’t miss.

The event, feeling much more like an elegant party, was in full swing as we arrived, with the champagne and espresso martini cocktails flowing. Xennox has created a fabulous space to showcase their stunning bling and, like most of the ladies there, I simply couldn’t resist the temptation to try on a little (OK, $34,000 worth), of it – in my a case a modern cut Pink Argyle diamond ring! Sadly sanity prevailed and it had to go back into the display cabinet … this time.

xennox_wfml009-8With the fashion show a highlight of the night, it was Karl Schwantes himself who launched the show with a rousing introduction before highlights from Vanessa’s most recent collections, together with some teasers from her new range, made their way around the runway. The showstopping start, featuring jewellery against the backdrop of stylish black bodysuits was followed by a selection of stunning wedding and formal gowns, as well as some of the elements from the new two-piece range that can be mixed and matched to create the look you want.

Xennox will be hosting these events at intervals throughout the year so if you get the opportunity you should get along.

Photography and Video by Masterpieces Photography + Video

 

WFML Glamorous Collection Launch

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Hollywood-style glamour came to Brisbane last night with the glitzy launch of the When Freddie met Lilly Indianna Collection in the Valley. The night was filled with stunning gowns and equally gorgeous people, many wearing When Freddie met Lilly creations.

A full-on red carpet experience greeted the attendees with paparazzi snaps (by Masterpieces Photography + Video) on the stylish media wall (by Watermelon and Soda Design) outside Mirra Private Dining and Events. Attendees could get a wonderful dose of the ultra-hip vintage vibe at the Gathering Events caravan just outside the front door. Inside live music was being played by Savvy, while canapés and drinks were being served at a number of locations around this most flexible of venues, whilst fashion films projected in the courtyard, and guests could have the evening’s fun remembered at one of the two photo booths.

The standing room only parade commenced with a relaxed introduction by the beautiful and ever-so-accomplished Giaan Rooney, setting the scene for an evening of exquisite and sexy gowns.

As the lights came up the runway show was a veritable feast of sexiness with divine lace, luscious fabrics, sparkling embellishments along with lingering glimpses of décolletage, deep splits and low backs, all complemented by the spectacular headpieces from The Little Pack of Five. The luxurious green backdrop of the catwalk was highlighted by sparkling lights and lusciously draped with fresh native foliage by Kate Dawes Flower Design. The guys weren’t forgotten with suits, accessorized with bowties, and in a variety of seasonal colours. As always the flower girls managed to steal the show in the cuteness of frills, feathers and flower crowns.

Designer Vanessa Hoe should be justifiably proud of this collection, elements of which featured strongly last year in New York and at Sydney Bridal Fashion Week earlier this year. The When Freddie Met Lilly brand is an absolute powerhouse that continues to go from strength to strength and with standing room only this year, it’s exciting to think what next year’s collection launch might bring.

Photo Credit: Masterpieces Photography + Video

View Social photos on Masterpieces Facebook page.

Event Contributors:
When Freddie met Lilly | Mirra Private Dining and Events | Masterpieces Photography + Video | Watermelon and Soda Design | The Little Pack of Five | Kate Dawes Flower Design | Bella Brides Hair and Make up | Beautiful Wedding Australia | Event Letters | Gathering Events | In the Booth | Cakes by Judy C | Summer and East | Sofi Spritz | Enchanted Empire | We are Twine | Slow Motion Photo Booth | Tracey Moyle

 

A taste of haute-couture

ALCP_2Right now, here in Brisbane, you can enjoy a taste of the luxury experience usually reserved for A-List celebrity parties when you choose an incredible haute-couture cake created by Caitlin Mitchell at A Little Cake Place.
We were lucky enough to be invited to join one of Caitlin’s couples on the start of their journey to cake-heaven with a tasting and consultation at her studio in Annerley.
Caitlin creates a real experience for her clients, with a very select range of premium teas served in elegant china to accompany the mouth-watering tasting platter.
Caitlin usually leaves her clients alone to try the flavours by themselves, but we were there to experience just how many times the word “yum” was used and it was quite obvious that Rach and Stu would have been more than happy to go “around-the-clock” of flavours again.
ALCP_3Once they had narrowed down the choice (clearly a VERY difficult process), Caitlin came back into the room to discuss ideas for decorating. This was where you could see why Caitlin describes her work as couture because she took the time to listen to the client and take in the details of theme, colour palette and inspiration. She then began to sketch some ideas, gradually refining the design until the clients had everything they wanted in an elegant and unique piece. When you see the stunning sample cakes all around her studio you know that Caitlin creates truly outstanding masterpieces of cake art and we can’t wait to see the finished article at Rach and Stu’s wedding in September.
Watch the video to see what happens at a tasting with A Little Cake Place.
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Photos and Video: Masterpieces Photography + Video

Real Life Wedding: Sarah and Peter

PeterSarah035-35A chance meeting at the dog park led to love for Sarah & Peter who married recently in a surprise wedding at Eaton’s Hill Hotel.
This fun loving couple soon realised they had much more in common than just a love of Staffy x Ridgeback dogs and, in a romantic moment in a spa in the Whitsundays, Peter took his chance and popped the question to a delighted Sarah.
Of course, that meant it was time to plan the perfect wedding day, however, Sarah quickly realised that the big dream wedding wasn’t going to be her thing and the couple decided to think about alternative options. As Sarah rightly says “it’s all about you and your fiancé making a promise to each other for life”. The couple made the bold decision to hold a surprise wedding at what they had planned to be their engagement party with just a handful of their closest family and friends and then hold a big party for everyone else a little down the track.
As you will see from the gorgeous photos from the talented team at Masterpieces Photography + Video, the day turned out to be a massive success, with everyone having an absolutely wonderful time at Eaton’s Hill Hotel. Whilst a few people were in on the surprise, Sarah and Peter did a great job in keeping the majority of guests guessing until the very last minute. Sarah even jokes “Pete and I caught an Uber to the hotel and told the driver we were getting married in an hour but even he didn’t believe us!”.
The couple plan to honeymoon at Caloundra in early spring and are holding a big party to celebrate their nuptials at the same time. Sarah’s advice for other brides-to-be is quite simple “get married exactly how you and your partner want to and don’t listen to anyone else”. Sensible words we think!

Marriage means to us

Spending the rest of your life running amuck with your best friend.

 

Wedding suppliers

Wedding Location: Eaton’s Hill Hotel Brisbane
Bridal Gown: Alfred Angelo
Bridal Shoes: Guess
Bridal Makeup & Hair: Bek Robinson Makeup and Hair
Stationery: Kristen Dangerfield
Flowers: One Stop Wedding Shop
Celebrant: Louise Thompson

What not to say to a bride on her wedding day

M&D Wedding114-2A bride’s wedding day is an emotionally charged marathon. The bride isn’t just marrying the love of their life, they’ve spent many months preparing and planning for their perfect day. This precious day was likely preceded by a restless or possibly sleepless night, started early with a morning appointment with hair and makeup, involves simultaneous nerves, stress and elation, and usually finishes late, probably under the influence of a glass or two of bubbles!

If you’re privileged to be part of the wedding day preparations or to be attending a wedding then think before you speak. Here’s some hints on what NOT to say:

  1. “Don’t worry but …” No explanation need for this one.
  2. “What a pity …” See point one.
  3. “I told you so …” The phrase most likely to result in wedding day bloodshed!
  4. “I’m surprised you invited … or didn’t invite …” We all know family and friends can be a sensitive issue. A wedding day is the time to forget any past issues, and to enjoy the moment for the happy couple.
  5. And finally, any mention of unhappy endings. We all know the statistics on divorce, but this really isn’t the time or place!

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Bridal Veil 101

Masterpieces Photography + Video at Jimbour HouseMany brides today are forgoing the tradition of bridal veils and choosing headpieces, flower crowns and bejewelled adornments, but we want to champion the tradition of the bridal veil.

Once believed to ward off evil spirits, it was Queen Victoria who popularised veils in the 1800s and since then they have drifted in and out of fashion.

Just like your wedding dress itself though, this is only time you get to wear this dramatic and spectacular article of clothing, so why wouldn’t you?

The one universal fact about veils is that they can flatter your figure, by elongating your body. The length of your veil, your body shape and your bridal gown need to complement each other for the perfect look. Test out a variety of options and see what works best with your gown. You want a veil to complement your overall silhouette, not break the flow of your look.

If you have a daringly low back, intricate cut out or delicate lace detail on the back of your gown, the veil provides some modesty for the ceremony, whilst removing it later takes your gown into party mode in one easy move.

Your veil can be an individual as your gown. If you are getting your gown designed and made for you, the designer may also tailor the veil to you.

We spoke to Linda Brewster from Gowns of Elegance who said that 80% of her brides still chose a veil to complement their dress. Linda said “Brides today are inspired by the spectacular shots they see on Pinterest, with cathedral length veils particularly popular because of the photographic opportunities they present. The veil that will float on the wind, create shimmery movement or drape over people, cars and so on is fantastic for the creative photographers and videographers out there”.

So before you toss away the idea of a veil here are some options for the length of your veil.

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So let’s hear it for the humble veil – that flattering, fluttering piece of tulle or lace that can become the perfect photographic prop – and that’s before we add any of the embellishments that make a modern veil so unique.

Illustration by Watermelon and Soda Design
Images by Masterpieces Photography and Video