5 tips to help you stay sane in your wedding planning

You don’t normally associate the topics of getting married and mental health, but it’s Queensland Mental Health Week and planning a wedding can be a huge stressor for many couples. If you’re beginning to feel the strain, it’s important to take a step back and think about your mental wellbeing as you plan your future life together. While that one milestone day is important to celebrate your love and commitment to each other, it is essential to minimise stress and anxiety before the big day.

Here are the top five tips we recommend to reduce stress on your wedding day:

Ask for support

This is a special day that you will remember forever, however, you’re not the only ones who are going to be enjoying a wonderful day – your family and friends are as much a part of the day as you and your partner so don’t take on all the work yourselves. Ask for help and support where you can. If you have one of those awkward family dynamic situations that doesn’t work well together then plan for this early – don’t leave it to the last minute. You know everyone’s personalities, so choose carefully who you rely on and make sure your requests for assistance are reasonable too. You can’t expect everyone to be quite as committed as you are either, so give people realistic deadlines and be appreciative of the small things.

Plan ahead

Do as much as you can before the big day and if your budget allows, use professionals. If your budget is more modest then ask your family and friends to help set up on the day and pick someone completely trustworthy to act as coordinator on the day. You don’t want to be worrying about the chair covers or floral centrepieces before you walk down the aisle.

Make sure you get your wedding dress with enough time to make any last-minute changes if required and make sure that at your final fitting you try the dress on with the underwear you plan to wear. Some things, like the cake and the flowers, have to be collected at the last minute, but most items you need can be collected days or weeks in advance and the more things you tick off the list early the better. If items need to be moved around on the day, or positioned at specific places make sure you have detailed someone you trust implicitly to make sure it happens, maybe even do a dry-run in the days or weeks before to practice.

 

Communicate your priorities

You can’t please everyone, as much as you might want to. From the very start of the planning stage it is good to understand your own expectations, along with the expectations of other people who play a key role in your lives and will be essential to your wedding day. Avoiding discussions about big items, such as the budget, can create significant problems as you approach your wedding day. So be clear in your priorities and plan around the key components and people, being upfront and honest is usually the best policy, with family, friends and vendors.

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Photo credit: Masterpieces Photography + Video

Trust in the professionals

If your budget has allowed for a team of professionals, utilise their skills and services to the fullest extent. Set clear expectations and ask questions early in the planning stages. It can be very hard to alter plans once the day is in progress, and even harder if the plans were ambiguous to begin with. So be kind to your vendors, meet with them, fill in their forms and ask questions. They want to make your day magical, but they need you to help them do that. Trust their skills and experience, and be in the moment on your day, not counting seats, or worrying about how bright the lights are.

 

 Let it go

Sometimes things don’t go to plan, but how you react to unplanned events can be the difference between a good celebration and a bad one. We have attended so many weddings where the bride or groom gets upset about something that the guests haven’t noticed. All the guests see is a bride or groom who doesn’t look like this is the happiest day of their lives. This isn’t the lasting impression you want to give to you friends and family. In contrast we have attended weddings where so many things have gone wrong – massive storms, people running late, bouquets falling apart, ripped bridesmaid dresses in inappropriate places to name but a few – yet they have been some of the best celebrations we’ve seen because the couple took things in their stride and just made the most of the day.

So, take stock. What is really important to you about your big day? That is your priority in the planning and on the actual day.

If things get on top you, it might be time to talk to someone. Maybe your partner, your BFF, your mum, or your mother-in-law. Whoever you feel most comfortable with to raise your concerns. You’ve heard the old saying about a problem shared. It really does work. A different perspective might be the calming conversation you need.

And if you don’t think that’s going to work, for someone completely independent and unbiased to talk to about a personal crisis you can contact Lifeline

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Photo Credit: Masterpieces Photography +Video
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Here’s how to get tickets to the latest bridal collection launch

Wedding PhotographyThe new Easton Collection by When Freddie Met Lilly will be launched at a spectacular evening celebrating all things bridal at The Lushington in Woolloongabba on Thursday 11 October. Tickets are still available, so if you have getting married on the diary for 2019 or beyond this is an event you won’t want to miss, with the latest bridal designs on show at a newly restored art deco venue.

Each year Vanessa Hoe, bridal designer and owner of When Freddie met Lilly, brings together an expert array of bridal suppliers to showcase her latest designs in an atmosphere of red-carpet glamour and sumptuous surroundings. This year looks to continue the trend with the gorgeous Tess Alexander MCing in this new luxurious venue.

Vanessa describes her latest collection of bridal gown designs, “The Easton Collection has hints of ethereal elegance, with our signature French and Italian laces taking on new styles and silhouettes.”

“The collection is drawing inspiration from both vintage and contemporary romance.”

Don’t miss the opportunity to be one of the limited guests for this very special evening.

Thursday 11 October 2018
The Lushington, 5 Hubert St. Wolloongabba
6pm for 6:30pm start to 8pm

Reserve your ticket now

View the 2017 Dakota Collection launch event photos

 

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Your Carriage Awaits…

Nothing beats arriving and style, and the epitome of style has to be a Rolls Royce. Iron Horse Carriages can whisk you to your special day in luxury in a meticulously restored 1956 Rolls Royce or a fabulous “royal” Daimler – the favourite choice of HRH The Queen Mother. Ian, the owner of Iron Horse Carriages has a lifetime of driving experience in the most demanding environments and we caught up with him to ask about his best tips for your wedding day transport

  1. What piece of advice would you offer to brides when it comes to transport on their wedding day?
    Make sure allow plenty of time, don’t rush when travelling to the wedding venue. This is a time for both reflection and an opportunity to gather yourself. You’ve had numerous people pull you one direction then the other, all getting you ready for your day. Use this period of calm to relax and enjoy a little bit of you time. Make sure you can sit comfortably in your wedding dress, it’s hard to relax when you can’t breathe.
  2. What is your dream car?
    For a wedding, I think I have my dream car the Rolls Royce Silver Cloud 1. For driving myself, a Jaguar F Type, they are beautiful and a true drivers car.
  3. Where is your favourite Sunday drive?
    Driving through the northern gold coast hinterland, rolling hills, lovely views and some little café’s.
  4. What is your ideal transportation job/task?
    I’ve had a couple of these, they are the “surprise wedding transport” jobs. Where the bride has no idea her wedding car will be a luxury vintage classic car, when she see’s the flying lady on the grill and the beautiful rolled lines of the car, tears are not far behind.
  5. Why/When did you become an owner of a vintage car?
    I’ve always had a keen interest in the cars of the “Golden era of Motoring” the 40’s to the 60’s. Back then the design of cars was more about the journey than getting to the destination as quick as possible. I was constantly drawn to the style of the British marquee cars of that era, when an opportunity to buy a 1946  Mark IV Jaguar came up then , I bought another Jaguar, and the bug had certainly bitten by then.

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  • What are you most proud of?
    Turning a passion of luxury marquee cars into a business, I’ve had to spend many many hours working on the cars to get them up to showroom condition, but that’s what I love and the fact that I can share that with others is a real joy.
  • Have you worked with any celebrities?
    Celebrities – yes but I have signed over disclosure agreements so no names. I have been involved with Vice Regal engagements, 2 engagements with HRH Prince Phillip and some other high profile dignitaries. Not much call for that now with the security increase requirements, pity as they are lovely to work for.
  • What’s your favourite movie?
    Either Red or Red 2
  • What’s your favourite cuisine, or your favourite place to dine?
    My wife is a brilliant cook so, at home on the deck overlooking the river, watching the sunset, eating whatever she has made drinking a fine wine, bliss.
  • Where’s your favourite place to get coffee?
    Dili, Timor Leste, but when not there, I go to the “Dancing Bean Expresso Bar” in Ipswich, it’s tucked away behind a German Restaurant, so it’s still a little secret.
  • What are you reading?
    Just finished reading “Everything to live for” by Turia Pitt. A True story of a beautiful young woman burnt beyond recognition doing an outback running race in WA, inspiring stuff.
  • Where is your ideal getaway?
    This is easy, a quiet luxury tropical island resort.
  • Are you a cat or dog person?
    Definitely a dog person, love my chocolate Labrador. Some people have a black lab, or a yellow lab, I have a meth lab, he’s crazy but he’s my crazy.
  • What inspires or motivates you? 
    I run a Not for Profit organisation working with injured and ill veterans, seeing these girls and guys work through their injuries and illnesses and get better lives, drives me on every day.

 

Find out more about Iron Horse Carriages

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Unsuitable wedding

It’s the one thing everyone dreads when flying – lost baggage. When it’s a wedding it’s even more critical that all your belongings arrive with you.

One unhappy newly wed vented their displeasure (via REDDIT) with their flight service when their luggage didn’t make it to his destination wedding.

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The average cost of the Aussie wedding

WFML_PreLaunch114With so many reports in news and social media about the cost of weddings it’s hard to know what the average really is. In Bride to Be’s biannual Cost of Love survey we learn that the cost of weddings has nearly doubled in the last ten years. Interestingly the increases are in pre-wedding celebrations, jewellery, the groom’s outfit, beauty and the bridal party.

One element that has seen a 6% decrease is the bridal gown, with the average Australian bride spending $2,914 on her dream gown. In a definite sign of the times, one in ten gowns are now purchased online which may account for some of the decreased average spend. While in contrast, the groom’s outfit cost have increased by 14% to $718. Clearly a long way shy of the bridal attire costs, but that average is a good place to start when considering a quality suit.

The survey polls over 1000 Australian women who are engaged or have married recently. So, does this fit with your expenditure?

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Do you feel lucky?

If you’re newly engaged then you’re not going to want to miss out on an incredible offer from our friends at Masterpieces Photography & Video!

If you love adventure, have a great sense of humour and are comfortable being affectionate in public then you could win one of 10 incredible engagement packages valued at $395.

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The team at Masterpieces are passionate about capturing every precious moment of your wedding journey and that starts with your engagement.

If you don’t want to miss out on this amazing opportunity then enter the draw here.

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Old world grandeur with 5-star service

MPV_TreasuryHotel-3If you’re looking for a Brisbane venue simply oozing elegant style and sophistication then it’s hard to go past the Treasury Hotel. With its mix of an unbeatable location, spectacular architecture and niche function spaces this Brisbane icon is difficult to top.

The hotel’s exceptionally professional, friendly and dedicated function staff know how to deliver your perfect wedding day. Our friends at Masterpieces Photography + Video are one of their preferred suppliers and have shared some highlights from the latest showcase at this real treasure of Brisbane.

Wedding trends for 2017

Pinterest have released their latest wedding trends for 2017. The trend report is based on what brides are pinning, liking and commenting about on Pinterest. Definitely worth a look we say. We’ve seen that personalisation is in high demand, with greenery winning over blooms, and the unique lusted after.

See the report here.

We’re adding the glamping, along with teepees to our favourite trends.

See you on Pinterest …

Get your bride tribe kitted out

Make sure your bride tribe look the part on your journey to the altar with our fabulous new range of apparel and accessories.

Rosey Bride TShirt

We’ve teamed up with the folks at Redbubble to bring you an uber-cool collection of T-shirts, tote bags, mugs and so much more.

We’ve got products that make perfect favours for your bridal party, stationery to plan with, streetwear that gives your Hens party the edge and for the all-important girls-night-in before the big day.

You can view and order from our catalogue here and Redbubble will deliver direct to your door.

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MBFF is back

After much disappointment last year, we are excited about the return of Brisbane’s premier fashion event, Mercedes-Benz Fashion Festival Brisbane. This event features some of our favourite local designers, naturally the bridal and formal wear is our absolute favourite.

Tickets will be available from 1 June, so make sure you’re where fashion is and get your tickets. Find out more.